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Brave Son Climbs Mount Elbrus after Recent Loss of Father

Elbrus

Our son climbed Mount Elbrus this week. The highest mountain in Europe, one of the seven summits. Now, while this in itself is remarkable for anyone to achieve, it was something else for Philipp. Not only had he lost his dad just three months ago, he is also very ill. He doesn’t talk about it much, it’s not an illness one likes to talk about. Is isn’t a visible illness either, so if you’d see him, you wouldn’t notice. He’s a bit pale, a bit too skinny, maybe. He wouldn’t tell you that he is ALWAYS tired, that he’s running to the loo ten times a day, every single day. He wouldn’t tell you that he is in pain. He wouldn’t tell you that he was hardly able to leave his room for two years, that he had spent his teenage years pumped full with high doses of steroids and tons of other meds.Read More

What Happens After A Dad Dies

Dad

I talk to my children about their Dad very regularly. Tell them funny stories about my life with him or stuff he told me about his younger days. I’m trying to fill in the gaps. I edit out the bad stuff because that was between him and me as I’m trying to keep a positive set of memories alive in their heads.

They have lost a male role model. Someone who was there to teach them to drive, teach them how to make pancakes, teach them how to survive life and all its difficulties. A father offers a very different relationship to his children than the mum does. Of course, we both loved our kids and raised them together but, each parent brings their own skill to the job of parenting.Read More

I have been watching the Rio Olympic games 2016

Olympic games

I’ve been watching the 2016 Rio Olympic games from the start. I’ve loved watching many sports over the years but, to be pretty honest I’ve lost my mojo for getting into all things Olympic because of all the doping and corruption scandals. I began to watch last week with a huge dose of cynicism. Today I shed tears while watching the rowing finals. Ireland’s O’Donovan Brothers have won a silver medal. It will be the first medal in Olympic rowing that Ireland has won. I felt very emotional and moveRead More

I have rediscovered my love of reading.

reading

So. I’m off work on sick leave. Again I have found my inner self being in conflict with my work self. Stress and anxiety. How to cope? Small steps forward led me back to an activity that had been a joy to me throughout my life. I’ve rediscovered my love of reading. I joined the Galway City Library recently. For free. Hundreds of books from A to Z. I was going to substitute a novel instead of doing more therapy. I was taking a big chance but it’s working.Read More

A Bird In The Bathroom

A Bird In The Bathroom

So, we had a bird in the bathroom yesterday. The joys of living with two cats. I would have thought they had killed every bird, shrew, rat, mouse in the neighbourhood by now. Nope, Eliza managed to find another one. And brought it in the house. Because it is so much more fun to play inside. What was I thinking, leaving the backdoor open?? It’s like an invitation, right?Read More

Is the postman in your universe more reliable than ours?

Carlingford Lough postman more reliable

Hi Handsome,
How have you been. You must be so fed up with me talking to you ALL the time, so I figured another letter might be nice for a change. I hope the postman in your universe is more reliable than ours. A birthday card for you arrived yesterday. It got delivered to the wrong house (together with some pretty vital stuff) and it took more than 3 month to get here. I’d make that a speed of less than one centimetre a day. That is slow. Even for Ireland.Read More

AT A GLANCE

What is Widow.ie?

Established in January 2009, Widow.ie is an Irish online information and self-help resource for, and by widows, widowers and bereaved life partners.

How can Widow.ie Help me?

The purpose of the community forum is to help people like you who have lost a loved one with peer support, mutual advice and encouragement.

Who can Join?

If you have lost your Husband, Wife or Life Partner you are welcomed to join. Some members are recently bereaved and for others its a number of years, all ages are welcome to join in conversation.

What do you talk about?

Topics covered include all aspects of bereavement and recovery, life without our loved one, rearing of children and life as an older widow or widower, to name but a few. We talk about the lighter side of life too by sharing the good days along with the bad, here is where others understand…

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  • You've come to the right place. I'm only here a short while myself and I've found this site a great support. The others are all great people who are at different stages

    Forum Member

  • I just wanted to say that you have come to the best place. 3 Days here and I feel like I've found a safe haven somewhere to come to.

    Forum Member

  • I discovered Widow.ie in August 2009, when I was three years widowed. Typing "I am a widow" into a google search engine was silent cry – "I am a widow and I feel so alone". I expected the usual response from google "do you mean window?" Well I felt shattered – like broken glass – so perhaps google had the right idea. Widow.ie appearing on my screen was a surprise and I was eager to follow the lead. It led me to a world of people just like me, women and men who had lost their life partner through death. My introduction post was not asking for sympathy just satisfying a need to walk in company for a while until I figured out the next part of this strange new existence. In Widow.ie I found just what I was looking for – ordinary people facing this extra-ordinary challenge of saying goodbye to life shared as a couple and opening themselves to a new future as single people. I found a wonderful pool of knowledge and companionship. I had found the group that no one wants to join but was glad to find.

    Bernie, Forum Member

  • There are some very nice compassionate and caring people on this site and I hope this site brings you a bit of comfort as it has me.

    Forum Member

  • Widowhood is a unique pain. It's totally unlike any other bereavements; the little world you and he inhabited is whipped away in an instant, leaving you alone, bewildered, frightened, angry, confused, guilty and a thousand other things that you struggle daily to make sense of. Nobody, except those who have lost their partner, knows fully the intense loneliness of widowhood. Nobody, except those who have lost their partner knows how utterly your hopes and dreams for the future are shattered, how your personality changes, and how that which defines you (John's wife, Mary's husband) is taken away in a second. Nobody, except those who have lost their partner knows how difficult it is to sleep in an empty bed or attend a family wedding alone. On Widow.ie, everyone knows how it feels. There are people on this site at every stage of bereavement; people who are still reeling in the early stages and people who have had years of living with their loss. The 'older hands' are able to help the newly bereaved see that there is light at the end of the tunnel, that life can be good again; and they help them through every stage they go through, because they've been there too.

    Kerry, Forum Member

  • What's great about being a member is that we can talk openly at any time of the day or night. Recognizing the commonality of our experiences is reassuring. The reality of our lives has changed drastically. We might be cast into an extreme state of confusion and hurt by the evaporation of life as we know it, but we are not alone.

    Treasa, Forum Member