Bridget Jones is a Widow
Bridget Jones and Widowhood
The latest instalment of Bridget Jones, due for release 10 October, has caused a bit of a fuss amongst fans and critics.
Writer Helen Fielding has killed off Mark Darcy leaving Bridget...
What is Self-Care for Someone Grieving
You may have come across the term, "Self-Care", but what exactly is meant by it? Self-care is an important aspect of coping with grief and loss, and it can be particularly helpful for someone...
Alcohol & Grief Don’t Mix Well
Alcohol & Grief: Losing a spouse is a difficult experience that can leave you feeling overwhelmed, sad, and helpless. In such times, some people turn to alcohol as a coping mechanism. While alcohol may...
When Grief Encounters A Young Family – Venetia Quick
Everybody’s grief is personal to them, and everybody grieves differently. There isn't a template, and there is certainly no handbook that will guide you.
Life After the Children Leave: When the Silence Changes Shape
For those widowed young, life after the children leave can stir a quieter kind of grief—subtle, reflective, and not always easy to explain. After years of parenting alone, the silence can feel unfamiliar. But in this new chapter, there is also space for reconnection, gentle self-discovery, and hope for what still lies ahead.
How do I adjust to living in an empty nest now?
It piddling rain here in South Galway and I'm in my living room covered up with a soft Pennys throw. It's darkish outside and it really feels like winter. Maybe we've bypassed autumn all together. I've been making pot after pot of my not world famous apple & ginger chutney. So, it must be autumn. Right!! The house is so quiet. Even Daithi the cat is staying nearby. I think he and my dog Lola feel the loneliness of the empty nest that I'm surviving in. Denis the goldfish hasn't really changed his routine so I'm pretty sure that he is oblivious to my plight.
How To Help The Recently Widowed
Please talk about my loved one, even though he is gone. It is more comforting to cry than to pretend that he never existed. I need to talk about him, and I need to do it over and over.
Be patient with my agitation. Nothing feels secure in my world. Get comfortable with my crying. Sadness hits me in waves, and I never know when my tears may flow. Just sit with me in silence and hold my hand.
Don’t abandon me with the excuse that you don’t want to upset me. You can’t catch my grief. My world is painful, and when you are too afraid to call me or visit or say anything, you isolate me at a time when I most need to be cared about. If you don’t know what to say, just come over, give me a hug or touch my arm, and gently say, “I’m sorry.” You can even say, “I just don’t know what to say, but I care, and want you to know that.”
What Happens After A Dad Dies
I talk to my children about their Dad very regularly. Tell them funny stories about my life with him or stuff he told me about his younger days. I’m trying to fill in the gaps. I edit out the bad stuff because that was between him and me as I’m trying to keep a positive set of memories alive in their heads.
They have lost a male role model. Someone who was there to teach them to drive, teach them how to make pancakes, teach them how to survive life and all its difficulties. A father offers a very different relationship to his children than the mum does. Of course, we both loved our kids and raised them together but, each parent brings their own skill to the job of parenting.
Brave Son Climbs Mount Elbrus after Recent Loss of Father
Our son climbed Mount Elbrus this week. The highest mountain in Europe, one of the seven summits. Now, while this in itself is remarkable for anyone to achieve, it was something else for Philipp. Not only had he lost his dad just three months ago, he is also very ill. He doesn't talk about it much, it's not an illness one likes to talk about. Is isn't a visible illness either, so if you'd see him, you wouldn't notice. He's a bit pale, a bit too skinny, maybe. He wouldn't tell you that he is ALWAYS tired, that he's running to the loo ten times a day, every single day. He wouldn't tell you that he is in pain. He wouldn't tell you that he was hardly able to leave his room for two years, that he had spent his teenage years pumped full with high doses of steroids and tons of other meds.
How much time does it take to heal?
HOW MUCH TIME DOES IT TAKE TO HEAL
I still ask myself this question every day, even though my husband died in 2010.
It especially raises it's ugly head when things are going bad for me in work or financially or generally.
I'm on sick leave again due to my medical condition of anxiety/stress responses.
I do not like feeling this way and it takes a lot of work to get back to feeling normal.
It's human nature right??
One part of my brain is telling me I'm a great girl to be as good as I am and the other part of my brain turns into a child-minded wreck.
Sometimes there are no answers. There are only questions.
Time after bereavement feels longer and more difficult to get through than before we have been bereaved.
Or maybe it's because our focus has shifted to be on our own now and the adjustments we have to make in our every day life and dealing with the emotional fallout too.